Amor Fati - Love of Fate!

Acceptance takes off the burden we have been holding for so long.

Amor fati means the love of fate. True love can only be the fruit of acceptance. 

 "My formula for greatness in a human being is amor fati: that one wants nothing to be different, not forward, not backward, not in all eternity."

— Friedrich Nietzsche

Now you may be wondering, who was Friedrich Nietzsche?

He was a philosopher who died young but left behind powerful ideas that still inspire people all over the world. Nietzsche questioned traditional beliefs and encouraged us to find strength within ourselves. His thoughts about embracing life — not just the good, but also the struggles — remind us that when we stop fighting reality and start loving it, we live more freely.

So how can you achieve affirmation?

With small steps.

Start with reframing.

When you catch yourself thinking, “This shouldn’t be happening,” try shifting it to, “This is happening — what can I learn or do?”

One day while completing mundane household tasks, my little one found my phone and threw it from our balcony. We resided on the second floor. Instead of shouting, I did three things:

1. I politely told him not to do it ever again. I showed him my butchered phone and asked, "How would we call your grandparents now?" He got the message and apologised. He was just 2.5 at that time. 

2. I kept the balcony door locked — always.

3. And although it wasn't always possible, I tried to keep the phone out of his reach for the next few weeks. Slowly, he himself understood the gravity of the situation and stopped throwing my phone here and there.

This simple shift helped me let go of the heavy burden of "what should have been."

Life can never be comfortable all the time. But if we learn to welcome discomfort and work with it using a yes-to-life mindset, things will start to feel lighter.

Spare few moments for yourself or may be more. 

If you journal (or even if you don’t, just take a few quiet moments), write about a small challenge you face each day.

For example: "I am feeling tired."

Most of us don’t think we need to affirm our tiredness. But you can write (or say to yourself):

“I accept my tiredness because it shows I am working on something worthwhile,”

or

“I accept my tiredness because it reminds me that I’m giving my best to the day,”

or

“I accept my tiredness because it teaches me to honor my limits.”

or

"I accept my tiredness because it...." (find your own reasons). 

It’s not always easy to find value in the problems we encounter.

But when we try, even just a little, life becomes easier. Not for others, but for ourselves.

I hope you have a lovely day and a deeply fulfilled life.

If you try any of these methods — or if you have your own ways — I would love to hear about them in the comments.

Amor fati, friends. :)