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Are your Intentions Assumptions?

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We often live under the false notion that stepping in to help makes us automatically kind. Imagine: You are stuck in a storm — cold, drenched, and shivering. A kind stranger helps you by letting you into their car. You are happy. Relieved. The problem is solved: finally, out of rain, no more drenching. Now, all you need is a towel to help you feel dry and warm. You spot one sitting in the front seat. They turn on the heater and offer you a cup of tea, but they do not furnish you with the towel. You shiver. You wait. You wonder: why not the towel? Their well-meaning help now feels frustrating. Instead of making you happy and comfortable, their help now frustrates and feels excruciatingly inadequate. Their reason could be anything. It’s possible they simply missed it, were oblivious to its significance, or didn’t realize it at all. But here is the point: They helped you in the way they thought was best for you, rather than asking, “What do you need right now?” Now, ask yourself: How man...
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It ends with you - All you inherited is not worth keeping!

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Today I’m not going to talk about generational wisdom, or trauma, or even traditions. I want to talk about something subtler— habits . Habits can be good or bad, right or wrong. But one thing I know for sure: they slip quietly into our lives from our parents, grandparents, siblings, and relatives, and slowly embed themselves into our core beliefs. From the day you were born, you’ve been observing and absorbing your surroundings. Back then, you were too young to question whether what you were soaking in made any sense. But now? You can . And should . If a friend or your spouse points something out or if you notice it yourself, instead of reacting defensively, try responding mindfully. Take a pause. When you catch yourself doing that small thing or big thing subconsciously, pause. Observe it. Ask: “Do I really need this in my life?” Let me give you a few examples: In your parents' home, resting might be seen as laziness. But is it? Is that what you want your children to belie...
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Amor Fati - Love of Fate!

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Acceptance takes off the burden we have been holding for so long. Amor fati means the love of fate. True love can only be the fruit of acceptance.   " My formula for greatness in a human being is amor fati: that one wants nothing to be different, not forward, not backward, not in all eternity." — Friedrich Nietzsche Now you may be wondering, who was Friedrich Nietzsche? He was a philosopher who died young but left behind powerful ideas that still inspire people all over the world. Nietzsche questioned traditional beliefs and encouraged us to find strength within ourselves . His thoughts about embracing life — not just the good, but also the struggles — remind us that when we stop fighting reality and start loving it, we live more freely. So how can you achieve affirmation? With small steps. Start with reframing. When you catch yourself thinking, “This shouldn’t be happening,” try shifting it to, “This is happening — what can I learn or do?” One day while completing mundane ...
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Chokher Bali - An Upheaval of Emotions!

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Chokher Bali is not just a novel. It’s a reflection of the emotional ups and downs of human nature. Reading it feels like sitting on an emotional rollercoaster—you start off without knowing what to expect, get caught in all kinds of turbulence, and by the end, you’re back where you began, but not quite the same. Take Asha, for instance. She goes through all kinds of emotions—hurt, betrayal, helplessness, and eventually, maturity. But in the end, she justifies her husband's betrayal by convincing herself that he is irresistible, so anyone can fall in love with him. That one line carries so much weight and sarcasm. It makes you stop and think—what we perceive and go through is often clouded by our own ignorance. Asha believed Binodini loved Mahendra. But in truth, Binodini was furious with Mahendra for not giving her the rightful place she felt she deserved by marrying her. She was frustrated with Bihari as he deeply cared for Asha. She was jealous of Asha. Yet, she cared for her dee...
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Love of Power!

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If power is exploitation, power is responsibility too. If power is destruction, power is creation too. If power is burden, power is opportunity too. If power is arrogance, power is humility too. If power is dominance, power is leadership too. If power is danger, power is strength too. If power is oppression, power is freedom too. Power does not hold itself any value. It is choice that makes it powerful. Power can bring infinite good, evil, or anything in between; it is you who decides what to do with it. In the Mahabharata, Duryodhan had much more power than the Pandavas. Still, he lost because he did not use it with wisdom. Despite his vast resources and alliances, Duryodhan's arrogance and unjust actions led to his downfall. The Pandavas, though not always perfect and truthful, were guided by principles of justice and righteousness. Their resilience and the wise counsel of Krishna helped them achieve the unimaginable. Thus, power can lead to greatness and lasting success, but its...
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Women's day 2024!

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To all the women out there: You stood up when they told you to sit down. You asked why when they ordered you to shut your mouth. You dared to move forward when they mocked you. You fought against injustice even when you stood alone. You showed up when they tried to push you away. You gave your best when they doubted your competence. Every step you took forward paved the way for your fellow women and the ones yet to come. Thank you for persisting in a world that isn't always safe or kind to women. We stand beside each other, stronger together. Happy Women's Day! Keep shining and inspiring. More power to you!  Stay tuned! 
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What is focal point of your life?

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Yesterday, my son was in tears because of some bullies on the school bus. He exclaimed, "My life is already miserable, and you don't understand me." Feeling offended, I took a deep breath to maintain composure. "How do you feel at school, at home, at karate class? Do you feel loved and happy?" I inquired. He began to calm down. "Things are good. I'm happy at those places. I have great friends there, and at home, I have you, Papa and my little brother," he replied. Softening my tone further, I explained, "So, your focus isn't in the right place. You're giving attention to people who are strangers to you, about whom you know nothing, and who know nothing about you. Your focus should be on the people who bring you happiness . They should be the center of your life, not random strangers. If you make negativity the center of your life, your life will be negative. Conversely, if you make positivity the center, your life will be positive....
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