From the dark to the dawn

Ever since I was a child, I watched movies where a perfectly ambitious, self-dependent woman would get married and almost instantly dissolve her identity into a good wife, a good DIL, a good mother, a good daughter --- everything… except herself. She would stop relying on herself and become dependent on her husband. And it seems nobody cares, not even she herself. How ironic!  She is not the only one losing herself in this arrangement. He is too. Two things happens with him also, almost instantly: 1. The man, who is ambitious, settles into being a “family man” and somewhere along the way,  forgets what he truly wanted.  2. The one who could barely understand his own emotions is now expected to carry hers too, manage them and live around them for the rest of his life. How ironic!  If she can become a GOOD mother, wife, daughter-in-law, daughter, yet fail to be GOOD AND KIND to herself,  And he can become a GOOD husband, father, brother, son-in-law, yet fail ...